There have been a number of issues raised on etiquette and speakers’ chat rooms, and on LinkedIn regarding people constantly clearing their throats.
Several suggested that it may be simply a bad habit or nervousness, and that the person does not even notice. Listening to it of course is quite irritating, especially if you clear your throat on the phone, right into the listener’s ear. There were people who swore by some medication, described by a doctor no less; there were others with hilarious ?remedies’.
My input was short and simple: I am a singer and a public speaker.
- No milk products and no nuts of any kind on the day of performance.
- If you have a morning performance, get up really early so that the phlegm has time to leave your body by the time you are on stage.
- I don’t drink water during my performance, and especially not from a bottle; I find it inelegant. What if it goes down wrong and you start coughing?
- Sleep is good for two things: voice and wrinkles.
- If you sing, you are already used to breathing from your diaphragm, and of course you vocalize to warm up your singing voice.
When I listen to speakers who clear their throat a lot during a speech I worry that it is because they are either nervous or use that as a filler, like hm, and, like, therefore, etc.
Nancy Daniels, Voice Dynamic from New Jersey explained it most clearly. This is an excerpt:
If you use your chest to power your voice, and not your throat, you would solve the problem. If you learn to place your voice in your chest cavity, you will notice a huge difference not only in how your throat feels but also in the decrease of throat clearing. When I speak, whether it is for 50 minutes or for a full-day workshop, I do not need any liquid relief for my throat. And I don’t spend my time clearing my throat unless I have a cold.
Nancy’s advice is: Stop trying to fix the problem. Fix the voice and there is no problem.
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Cool… If I was a good golfer… and were to take clients out… or be invited… those are good things to know!
Wonderful information here, especially about the importance of golf in Asia and how it is incorporated into the University’s undergraduate program. Well done!
Business Etiquette & Customer Service Specialist
Vancouver, Washington, US
As per usual, great etiquette tips for everyone!
Barbara Onyskow WFIM Chair
Csak hogy magyarul is megdicserhessen valaki….igazan kituno dolgokat sajatitok el!!!! Soha nincs leveleidben olyan, amit ne lehetne ujra hallani, ha mar esetleg ittt-ott hallottuk is. Orulok, hogy keszited es kuldod ezeket a leveleket.
Owner/Manager, A & M Catering Service, Toronto